Sunday, December 04, 2005

It's MY Blog - isn't it?

I often wish that I could blog the way blogs were intended to be done. But the irony is, that my dear readers are far more judgmental of what I say and how I say it – than anyone in my community could be.

So whenever I decide to post, I need to proofread, critique my own style, and analyze my own thoughts. To think that I used to believe that I can’t inspire myself!

Now on to why I am telling you all this:
Being that we have hit the winter season, I have come down with the flu. Not as surprising – as it is annoying. Mostly for the fact that I don’t have the patience for formulating a point of view decent enough to withstand the onslaught that everything I throw out there is subjected to.

So dear readers, for the time being – (being that I am stuck in bed, and am lucky enough to have this marvelous contraption that so amazingly connects me with the outside world, without the need to so much as get out of bed) – will you be kind enough to let me blog without incessant attack? From one cyber-spacer to another?

So here it goes, I’m having a bad day. I was sick on my birthday – which I personally believe to me completely unfair. The fact that my birthday insists on occurring, year after year, right at the onset of this awful season called Winter – is audaciously unfair. I’ve missed Chanuka parties due to the flu. But that’s a fact of life. It’s the Festival of Lights – as much as it is the Season of Motrin. I’ve made peace with that fact. Sorta.

But to be stuck in bed on my BIRTHDAY?!? Not an easy pill to swallow. Especially since my throat is killing me. One of the worst puns out there. I know. But in light of the way I am feeling – I’m gonna let it pass.

Now dear readers – be nice. Very gently tell me how much I suck.

25 Comments:

At December 04, 2005 3:41 AM, Blogger Captain said...

Hope you feel better soon.

 
At December 04, 2005 9:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

PLEASE WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE
ITS NOT NICE FOR A CHASIDISH VEIBEL
TO USE WORDS LIKE THAT

HAVE A REFUAH SHLEIMAH
WE ENJOY YOUR BLOCK VERY MUCH

 
At December 04, 2005 9:07 AM, Blogger Jewish Atheist said...

So whenever I decide to post, I need to proofread, critique my own style, and analyze my own thoughts.

You act like that's a bad thing. It's the best part! The dangerous part is, if you analyze your beliefs too much, you might have to change them. :)

Hope you feel better! The flu's awful.

 
At December 04, 2005 9:14 AM, Anonymous chanie said...

my dear readers are far more judgmental of what I say and how I say it – than anyone in my community could be.

Sorry to disappoint, but I AM from your community. and that's exactly why your denial and BS suck.

 
At December 04, 2005 12:24 PM, Blogger yidishcreplech said...

refua shlima

 
At December 04, 2005 12:49 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well you can always do what also a chosid did. He screens his comments so that only positive stuff gets posted. how neurotic is that?

 
At December 04, 2005 1:21 PM, Blogger FrumGirl said...

Feel better!

 
At December 04, 2005 10:09 PM, Anonymous JewishBiFemme said...

what happened to your other blog you sicko
introduction
you fuken sicko
holeh shaitel
langeshaitel
kurtzeh shaitel
uks uks

 
At December 05, 2005 12:14 AM, Blogger political said...

It saddens me that as a self-proclaimed supporter of the Williamsburg community you have the need to look over her shoulder and you are seemingly afraid of your own shadow.

From the moment one utters a word which can be perceived as a politically biased, or religious stance they have chosen the road to opposition, scrutiny, slander, and challenge. BEFORE you take a stand on any political or religious issue you had better make sure that your foundation is strong as there will always be malicious attempts to mock and shake the core of your scruples. The very fact that you are surprised by your readers scrutiny, outpouring, lashing out suggest that perhaps you are not ripe to take a position. Is that because you are not fully on board with your own opinions aired on your blog?

One has got to wonder.

If you were a firm believer in your own opinions you would embrace the challenge from your readers, as only when your views are questioned are you granted the platform to propagate your true beliefs.

Perhaps you should take the "down time" to take a closer look at yourself, do a full introspection at who you really are and what do you truly believe in.

Feel better.

 
At December 05, 2005 10:52 AM, Anonymous VFB said...

Have a Refuah Shlemah, and try not to take the criticism so personally.

 
At December 05, 2005 10:58 AM, Blogger modern chassidish said...

Refuah shelama
This was all done (hopefully) in the spirit of Machlokes leshem shamayim.

 
At December 05, 2005 10:59 AM, Blogger Totally Content said...

Hey Political – If I were to have any fears that my beliefs aren't strong enough for the onslaught - I probably wouldn't have blogged about it. (And at what point did it seem like I was ‘looking over my shoulder - afraid of my own shadow’??? Other than perhaps you liking this rather clever idiom, I can’t seem to think of a reason why you would reference it.)

It isn't my beliefs that I don't care to have criticized, but rather it is how I opine. It's the unparalleled scrutiny I'm under for spelling, grammar, and yes, that off-chance that I might have left one iota of my opinion open for interpretation. As you've once again proven - it's something one should never do with a public who is not capable of intelligibly interpreting that which they read. Because ultimately they skew it to suit their agenda.

Like you - once again telling me that this post - which has nothing to do with what I believe in - is proof once more of my inability to successfully prove a point.

If I were to have said,
Hey Political - I see you seem to believe that you are truly saying something... none on which made any sense.
--- You would have found that remark annoying. Not because it has any basis, but because in two lines it sorta negates an entire opinion.

If this hasn't helped you understand my point, I don't think anything will.

 
At December 05, 2005 11:00 AM, Blogger Totally Content said...

As for the rest of you - thank you all so much for the good wishes!

It's nice to see that so many of you have got a sweet side too.

 
At December 05, 2005 12:34 PM, Blogger modern chassidish said...

What I think political is saying (and correct me if I am wrong) is that you tend to dodge the issues that people have made. That can be seen as an insecurity on your part for avoiding the posts.

 
At December 05, 2005 12:52 PM, Blogger Totally Content said...

mod - or it can be correctly viewed as me not agreeing that the point is substantial enough to warrant my time.

It's all the way you look at it.

 
At December 05, 2005 1:09 PM, Blogger Der Shygetz said...

refuah shleima - and check out the new Creedmoor to really help you feel better (and join www.frumspace.com/forums while you are at it). But most important, feel better so you can scream "Shygetz Aroys" at all the idiots and morons out there :p!

 
At December 05, 2005 1:34 PM, Blogger modern chassidish said...

"not agreeing that the point is substantial enough to warrant my time"

The key here is substantial enough.
Had the points been off the topic or not relevant to the discussion all would agree that the points made are shtoos. But, my points that you ignored were on the topic and relevant to your posts. One would conclude that by ignoring pertanent comments you are dodging the issues. Its your blog do what you want but I am not convinced you are being intellectually honest. In other words, when someone displays a flaw in your logic or an inconsitency in what you are saying, your response is to cop-out and ignore. This tactic makes you loose credibility.
Additionally, many others have responded with their experiences living in chassidic circles or interacting with chassidim. You dismiss their experiences as if to imply that you have a monopoly on the inside scoop. This just makes me question what your agenda is (I know Hella wanted to get her PHD but what is in it for you?)

 
At December 05, 2005 2:27 PM, Blogger Totally Content said...

MOD -
I admit that there are certain faults that I can't refute. And I readily admit it quite often. But there are times when some choose to focus on a point - even when my initial post successfully proved the opposite. At those times I don't feel there is a need to keep on responding, unless you want to hear "for clarifications, please read my INITIAL post".

Being that everything can be viewed from multiple angles, and that there is indeed negative and positive to every issue - I don't see why I need to respond to every comment. Especially when some commenters simply insist on rehashing an old point.

 
At December 05, 2005 2:30 PM, Blogger modern chassidish said...

"even when my initial post successfully proved the opposite"

Care to give an example? You were able to prove an opinion, how so?

 
At December 05, 2005 2:37 PM, Blogger Totally Content said...

Mod - please. I was just saying I'm not feeling well! Don't you realize how much energy going through the archives would require? I don't have that energy - or patience. Overexertion could hinder my recovery!

Yeah, yeah. I know that patience is a virtue. But if being virtuous requires doing things I don't wanna - I've decided to reliquish the honor of bearing that label.

 
At December 05, 2005 3:22 PM, Blogger modern chassidish said...

Fair enough.

Blogging can be emotionally draining.

Although I disagree with a lot of what you've said, I appreciate your willingness to create a dialouge.
All the Best.

 
At December 05, 2005 3:23 PM, Blogger modern chassidish said...

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At December 06, 2005 2:25 AM, Blogger political said...

Sheitel,

I would like to "bury the hatchet". I am sorry that you took offense to my previous post. My apologies if I was not clear and for my charge that you might not believe in what you write. I hope you can forgive me. "To err is human, to forgive is divine."

“In the heat of the moment” you missed my point. When you first created your blog I was relieved. At last the community would have someone who will properly defend it. Unfortunately you have not lived up to my expectations and I was hoping, in what I believed was constructive criticism, my post would help you focus on both solidifying and making your points stronger. “A good writing instrument needs a sharp point.”

You’ve obviously been “around the block.” You’re smart, intelligent, self educated and a worldly person as is evident in your posts and comments. Though to exert an opinion, defend it and have the ability to bring others on board with your viewpoint takes an additional skill-set that needs to be cultivated over time. “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” As can be seen by the negative posts to your site you also need to have thick skin, be able to hold down your fort and respond to each retort and objection accordingly. I am sure oftentimes when the snide remarks are made you may feel that you’re caught “between a rock and a hard place”. You have critiqued Hella for her biased approach in “The Unchosen”, therefore you ought to expect that others will voice their opinions against your views too. “What’s good for the geese is good for the gander.”

By “beating around the bush” I was trying point out to you (which modern chassidish picked up on) is that you’re not there yet. Therefore I was suggesting that you spend this downtime to come up with a better way of articulating your points, retorts, and building a thicker skin for yourself. I guess it’s not always good to “wear your heart on your sleeve.” You have the foundation of what it takes. I am confident that over time with practice you will get it and I'll be rooting for you as I believe the community, “fixed in their ways”, by and large needs someone like you out there to cast the positive rays. They need someone “to go against the grain” to all those “who have an axe to grind.”

Keep blogging. After all “variety is the spice of life.” However, when you feel that you’re under attack try not to resort to retaliation. True strength comes from being able to hold your own by defending your position. Above all remember “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” -
Elbert Hubbard (1859-1915)
Hope you are no longer feeling “under the weather.”
“Lets call it a day.” Good Night.

 
At December 06, 2005 2:00 PM, Blogger Con Artistic said...

Political, you sound familiar. Is it the writing style? Donno.

I would disagree with you just a little if I may. Sheitel has clearly changed, even if only in a minuscule scale. If the blog originally looked like another insider furiously diverting non-existent attackers on her community, it soon took on a different angle. She admits to certain things that the “community” is lacking or outright wrong. Sheitel now writes about trends and failures of the likes “Unchosen” rendered so eloquently--albeit from a religious point of view from someone who wants to change certain niceties but keep the core. The cause of this change is perhaps more the cause of dialog between the readers then her original intention.

 

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